Today was my last day of work. The coronavirus has caused my place of employment to lock its doors...for now? forever? No one really knows. No one can really know the true and total implications that this virus will have on our world and on the future of our world.
We all live through events that are truly life-changing. I remember how much the world changed on September 11th, 2001. I remember how everything stopped, I remember the fear and anger, I remember the desperation and despair. Looking back on the events that occurred in 2001, now 19 years later, it is unimaginable to think where we are today verses where we were 19 years ago. But I think that is the same with all tragedies...we unify as a people, we dig deep and we find the resolve to move forward and grow from those experiences.
This has been a common theme throughout history...how people find the resilience and the determination to come together and carry the human race to new places, new ideas, new technologies, a new plane of existence. It only make sense that when someone goes through something tragic, they are changed from what they experienced.
As of today there are 250 deaths in the United States from Covid-19 and 19,000+ cases...experts believe that by the time this is all done and said we could be looking at 1.5 million to 2 million deaths in the United States. Calls for social distancing has been heard all over the country as states are closing down gatherings of 10 or more people, closing bars, restaurants and other venues where people meet and gather. In order to keep people save...government officials are having to literally stop the engines of one of the biggest economies on earth to keep people safe.
It is pretty interesting how fragile the human condition really is. With just the slightest agitation...the entire world could be turned upside down and on its head.
So today I enter quarantine, not knowing what the future has in store. I guess this is how the people must have felt in Season 1 of The Walking Dead...seeing something so globally-massive happening and feeling completely helpless to fix the situation or stop the situation. The silver-lining luckily is that humans have been around for a long time and they have a unique talent for finding ways to survive and come out stronger.
Are you a leader? According to the dictionary, a leader is defined as a person who leads or commands a group, organization or country. I am not going to lie, I have never liked the definition of a leader and I have never been able to find a definition suitable enough for what I want. I also cannot stand when the word itself is used as the definition, example: A leader is one who leads. But when talking about leadership, I have found that most people, though a good definition does not truly exist, have similar ideas in mind of “leadership.”
Although there are many notions of what a good leader is or does, I think it is most often-times best described by characteristics. Brave, Courageous, Strong, Intelligent, Passionate, Dedicated, Enthusiastic, Inspiring, Transformative, Engaging, Proactive, Respectful, Responsible, Dutiful, Resourceful, and Open-Minded. These characteristics are just a few characteristics that I think of when I think of leadership, granted a leader may possess all, some or none of these characteristics and may possess a whole list I did not even include. The study of leadership and leadership theory has been around for a long time, probably since the beginning of time. If you believe in God, God as the supreme leader to the wild pack animals such as the Lion where one male lion inserts dominance as the head of the pack to even the first Cave-people. Having someone that you can look to or at as guidance has been an important notion throughout history however sometimes leaders may not necessarily be the “bold, in your face, lead the country” type of leader. Leaders exist on a daily basis and oftentimes their impact may not be as noticed because they do it quietly without fanfare.
It is this notion of “everyday leadership” that I think is really interesting. The teacher that stands around in the hallway just a few minutes longer to make sure the school bully isn’t picking on the younger student or the role model that says some encouraging piece of information to someone who is feeling down or defeated. It is this unselfish, quiet leadership that really makes a difference in this world.
We all have those role models, those mentor figures, those people who really make a difference in our lives whether it be through large actions or the small, unnoticeable actions that have huge consequences. And it is important that we are always being mindful to thank them for those contributions in our lives. Who is your everyday leader, and have you taken a minute to stop and thank them?
I have always believed in the notion that people matter. After all I have worked in Residence Life and residence life is all about people, whether it be our residents living in our buildings, the RAs that we supervisor or the co-workers that we work with on a daily basis. I was fortunate enough to hear a keynote speech from Chad Littlefield at a departmental retreat that I attended the other day and something in my brain just connected to the work that I do on a daily basis.
First off, a note about Chad Littlefield, Chad started the Clown Nose Club at Penn State University 4 years ago. The overall mission of the clown nose club, according to their website is:
” In short (very short) our mission is to challenge ourselves and others to take positive social risks. And why would we want to do that, you ask? Because our philosophy is that people matter and authentic positivity freakin’ rocks! Zing!”
Positive Social Risk…Hmm, I bet you are wondering what that means. Well let’s first look at the definition of risk shall we. According to the Oxford English Dictionary (OED) the origin of the word risk is a little obscure with scholars dating it back to the 1600’s from the French “Risqué” meaning danger or inconvenience, predictable or otherwise. Scholars, though uncertain feel that the word can be traced back to Ancient Greece and Rome. The OED thinks that the post-classical Latin word resicum meaning “danger or hazard” could date back to the ancient Latin word resecum meaning “that which cuts” meaning the dangers or hazards associated with navigating the seas.
Regardless of the actual origin of the word though, the definition of the word risk, carries with it a negative connotation:
1) (noun) (Exposure to) the possibility of loss, injury, or other adverse or unwelcome circumstance; a chance or situation involving such a possibility
2) (verb) To endanger; to expose to the possibility of injury, death or loss; to put at risk.
The problem though with this definition, by its very nature being negative is that it precludes that risks can be positive, that they can be a good thing, that they can cause us to grow, to develop, to learn, to explore what’s outside the box.
This idea of Positive Social Risk though is not completely foreign. Psychologists Irwin Altman and Dalmas Taylor created a theory called the Social Penetration Theory. The foundation for the theory surmises that as people get to know each other and build close connections with each other their interactions become more genuine because they have put in the ground work to build the trust between each other.
The concept of Positive Social Risk basically speeds up this theory of Social Penetration. Instead of taking time to really build a rapport with someone and to ensure that there is enough time to build up securities before dropping walls, positive social risk is more of an immediate reaction to make a positive impact in someone’s life. For example, as the clown nose club explains, the next time you go to the grocery store tell the cash register that you appreciate everything they are doing and be genuine and sincere in thanking them. There is an immediate positive impact made in that person’s life based upon a “risk” that you chose to take.
The real question here though is…why wouldn’t you? What do you have to lose in making a positive impact in someone’s life on a daily basis. If they look at you funny so what, move on. In this theory, the risk is minimal but the impact could be so great, so meaning, so important.
In my Master's Program, I had the opportunity to focus a lot on the future of Higher Education with the emergence of new technology and new ideas. “Every great bubble in history has broken. There are no exceptions.” – Jeremy Grantham
What is the future of Higher Education? This is an interesting question and many people are trying to grasp where Higher Education is headed. And though there are no clear or definitive answers, many people have invested a lot of money in developing new technology that could bring about the end to the brick and mortar concept of education.
Currently the education system is built upon an antiquated system where people pay money to attend class taught by professors who instill some sort of knowledge upon the student. But as many studies have shown, the cost of education is constantly on the rise yet the actual value of the education that the student is getting is the same today as it was 20 years ago.
Courtney O’Connell, a rising leader on disruptive innovation in higher education, talks a lot about the classroom and teaching. She has a tedtalk where she encourages her viewers to “Go All in on Higher Education.” In her ted talk, she has a picture of time square from the 1920s and today and talks about how the differences are astounding. She then shows a picture of a classroom from the 1920s and today and says…What has changed? Below is a picture of her example:
The concept of disruptive innovation is that you always have to be on the cutting edge of development so that you do not realize one day that you have been disrupted and replaced. Today, the Carnegie measure of credit has been in existence and wide-spread use since 1910 (over 105 years) and this is predominantly the same standard of measurement that is used today.
However with rising concern over time spent in the classroom vs. actual practical learning, the foundation of education finds itself at a predicament. With many institutions exploring the notion of competency based learning and the use of prior knowledge to help supplement time spent in the classroom for credit could ultimately disrupt the carnegie credit hour.
The Kahn Academy has a very extensive system setup to track and monitor student progress and allow students to work at their pace and on subject matter that they specifically struggle with. The Kahn Academy model is currently being tested in middle and high schools. The rich interface allows teachers to generate lesson plans per each student that focuses on the areas that the student is specifically struggling with, and continues to test the student on those areas until the student has finally reached mastery of the concept.
In higher education, this can have many different implications. 1) Students can pay based upon time spent such as with the Western Governor’s University. A student pays a base fee for six months and works their way through the course material. After a series of assessments they prove if they have mastered the material and they can spend as much or as little time as needed on a specific area until they master it. Studies show that this model has already cut the time in class in half, reducing the cost that a student pays on education.
Lipscomb University allows students to take an all day assessment to determine competencies. After the 8-hour day of assessment, the student could leave with 30 credits based upon prior knowledge and experience (teamwork, communication, prioritizing information, critical analysis, etc). How much could a person save if they could shave off an entire year of their education? Students today are paying triple the amount for the same education as people 20 to 30 years ago. In places, theories, ideas, trends, etc change, but overall education has remained pretty stagnate. With the emergency of opportunities as featured in these articles, this could be a game changer.
Students can pay $1,500 for an 8 hour day of assessment on prior learning and competencies (competency based learning) and come out with 30 credits, that would technically be 1 year of college. When you think about how much time and money students invest in higher education, they could in theory shave off 1 year and $15,000+ in educational costs and expenses.
urthermore, developing technology, especially through the use of MOOCs is changing the very nature of education. Access to education is now available to anyone across the globe as long as they have an internet connection. Whereas, education use to be only for those people who could afford to attend an institution, now people can gain valuable knowledge from all over. The amount of information sharing and collaboration is endless, making for a more diverse and enriched educational experience. Some institutions are also looking for offering MOOCs for credit.
Digital badging is also creating an opportunity for people to take parts of courses to develop and gain skills. Could you imagine if you needed “critical analysis training” for a job promotion but did not want to spend an entire 15 weeks in a class so you instead take 3 weeks of the class to earn a badge for critical analysis to help support your knowledge and skills? Or could you imagine that as a student, you are engaged in many extra curricular activities, and while your in school you earn “badges” to help you showcase the experiences you have had and the skills you have gained from these extra curricular experiences that you can put alongside your actual resume? Think about how this would set a student apart with an employer if not only the employer saw the jobs and leadership positions the student held but also the skills they gained (communication, crisis management, budget/finance, leadership development, delegation, running meetings, etc). It is these concrete skills that employers are looking for from graduates today.
Joel N. Myers, the founder of Accuweather, feels that higher education is about to experience a drastic revolution. The educational boom has really created an environment that is ripe that will have a great impact on where education is going.
The Co-Founder of Udacity, Sebastian Thrun, per Joel Myers states, "In 50 years, there will only be 10 universities left in the world." There are currently 5300 colleges and universities in the United States. Myers states that 99% of all innovation and development has happened in the past 100 years whereas humans have been on the planet for 100,000 years. That means that 99% of all progress has occurred in 1/10th of 1% of human history.
Myers states that we are creating 2.5 billion of gb of data every day and of all data that has ever been recorded and entered...95% has been created within the past 2 years.
With the advances of technology and how quickly new innovations are happening, education is a major area for creative destruction and that education will change greatly in 10 years than it has in the past 1000s of years.
Myers talks about how more and more college graduates are unemployed and that employers are reporting that colleges and universities have failed its college graduates by not teaching them how to be flexible enough in today's ever changing world.
Studies have show that 54% of c-suite executives feel that the US Higher Education system lags behind developed and emerging countries in preparing students for the workforce. 96% of these same executives say that innovation is the most important thing in revitalizing and revolutionizing the higher education program and that experiential learning and entrepreneurial-ship are necessary for improving and developing today's students.
Why are universities failing its students? 73% of these executives felt that there is a skills gap in today's work force and that 87% of most current college graduates lack the necessary skills to be successful in their jobs (to meet new and flexible demands) (https://news.northeastern.edu/2014/04/28/survey-innovation-higher-education/).
Myers says that the best way for Higher Education to prevail is to follow these steps:
Khan Academy is one of those technologies that can really disrupt the future of education and not just higher education.
I am really impressed with the work of the Kahn Academy. How does education remain competitive and sustainable when you can use youtube videos to educate. A global classroom using online education is an interesting concept for sure. For higher education, I think it is going to be harder for universities to continue to justify such large tuitions, when learning is no longer completely housed at the university.
And for K-12 education, I think that this video shows some very interesting assessment techniques. Think about how focused teachers can be if they can “zone in” on those students that are not connecting specifically with a lesson or topic and then using peer to peer educational techniques to teach students that material is fascinating.
What is the future of Higher Education? With the emergence of Kahn Academy, Udacity, the focus on digital badges, online learning and distance learning, TedEd, MOOCS, online schools such as Governors University and the focus on demonstrated ability (prior knowledge, etc) where is education going?
In this video, there are many things that have not come to pass, but it does raise the question...what is Higher Education doing and where is it going? This concept is not crazy either. The next few blog posts are going to post about the future of Higher Education.
I always preach that communication is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. If you are not communicating, fully and effectively how can you expect someone to understand you. However communication has two parts two it, vocalization and listening. I feel like a lot of times in this world we tune out a lot of what people say. Why do we do that? Are we too distracted? Do we just want to hear what it is we want to hear? I would agree with both of those statements. But people want to be heard, they want to feel like they matter, they want to feel that their feelings, their thoughts, their expressions are not only vocalized but heard.
I have always been a very visual learner and to listen to someone speak to me can sometimes be a very daunting task. In many cases, it’s not because I think the person is boring, or the person is uninteresting or that the information that the person is presenting is dull..it is just…my mind tunes it out. I am one of those people who would much rather jump in and have hands on experience than listen to someone talk about something for an hour. So why is that? I think part of the problem is that I need to work on developing my listening skills…I need to live to listen.
I think Julian Treasure is right when he says, “Listening is our access to understanding. Conscious listening always creates understanding.” To further this notion, Gordon Hempton said, “When we’re truly listening, we have to anticipate that we might become changed by what we heard.” First off, an aside on Gordon Hempton. Hempton is The Sound Tracker. He is an acoustic ecologist who has spent over 30 years of his life traveling around the world recording the sounds of nature without any “manmade” noises interfering. The job seems pretty cool, and you can learn more by going to soundtracker.com
Mind over Matter:
Our mind can work much faster than we as humans can speak. Humans can speak at a rate of about 125 words per minute, whereas our minds can probably in take about 400 words per minute. Because our minds work so much faster than we as humans can present, our mind wonders. So when it comes down to it, we only use about 25% of our mental capacity to listen to an average speaker. With that in mind…there is another 75% of our mental capacity sitting there bored, urging us to find a distraction, make a distraction or do anything other than listen to the person speaking.
Dr. Ralph G. Nichols, a longtime professor of rhetoric says that to define a “good listener” it is someone who truly gives 100% attention to the speaker. Now how many of us would then consider ourselves to be good listeners? Whether that’s because we are checking our phone or doing some sort of other multitasking such as thinking about what we are going to each for lunch, or how can we ever get through our enormous to do list.
Dr. Nichols said, “The most basic of all humans needs is to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to truly listen to them.” Nichols has created a “Top 10” list of worst listening habits that we employ:
1. Call the subject matter uninteresting
You go to a meeting, the chairman announces the topic or you see it on a program, and say to yourself, “Gee, how dull can it get anyhow? You’d think they could get a decent speaker on a decent subject.” So you’ve convinced yourself the topic is uninteresting and you turn to the many other thoughts and concerns you’ve stored up in your mind for just such an occasion — you start using that unoccupied 75 percent of your mental capacity. A good listener, on the other hand, might start at the same point but arrives at a different conclusion. The good listener says, “Gee, that sounds like a dull subject and I don’t see how it could help me in my work. But I’m here, so I guess I’ll pay attention and see what the speaker has to say. Maybe there will be something I can use.”
2. Criticize the delivery or appearance of the speaker
Many of us do this on a regular basis. We tend to mentally criticize the speaker for not speaking distinctly, for talking too softly, for reading, for not looking the audience in the eye. We often do the same thing with the speaker’s appearance. If speakers aren’t dressed as we think they should be, we probably tend not to listen closely or we may immediately classify the speaker as a liberal or conservative, a hippie or a square. But if we concentrate on what the speaker is saying, we may begin to get the message and we may even get interested. Remember, the message is more important than the form in which it is delivered.
3. Become too stimulated
We may hear a speaker say something with which we disagree. Then we can get so concerned that our train of thought causes us to spend more time developing counter arguments so that we no longer listen to the speaker’s additional comments. We are busy formulating questions in our mind to ask the speaker, or we may be thinking of arguments that can be used to rebut the speaker. In cases like this, our listening efficiency drops to nearly zero because of over-stimulation. So, hear the speaker out before you judge him or her.
4. Listen only for facts
Too many of us listen for facts and, while we may recall some isolated facts, we miss the primary thrust or idea the speaker is trying to make. Be sure that your concern for facts doesn’t prevent you from hearing the speaker’s primary points.
5. Try to outline everything that is being said
Many speakers are so unorganized that their comments really can’t be outlined in any logical manner. It’s better to listen, in such a case, for the main point. A good listener has many systems of taking notes and selects the best one to fit a speaker.
6. Fake attention
This is probably one of the more common bad listening habits. If you’re speaking to a group and suddenly you become aware that most of your audience is sitting with chin in hand staring at you, that is a good signal that attention is being faked. Their eyes are on you but their minds are miles away. We probably have developed our own faking skills to a high point. Let’s recognize what we’re doing and eliminate faking as a poor listening habit.
7. Tolerate or create distractions
People who whisper in an audience of listeners fall into this category. Some
distractions can be corrected (closing a door, turning a radio off) to improve the listening atmosphere.
8. Evade the difficult
We tend to listen to things that are easy to comprehend and avoid things that are more difficult. The principle of least effort will operate in listening if we allow it to do so.
9. Submit to emotional words
We’re all aware of the emotional impact of some words. Democrat and Republican are emotional words for some people. So are northern and southern for others. There are hundreds of examples. Don’t let emotional words get in the way of hearing what a speaker is really saying.
10. Waste thought power
Nichols’ 10th bad listening habit is the one he feels is most important. It is wasting the differential between thought speed and the speed at which most people speak. Nichols describes 3 important ways to overcome this differential by:
Train the Speaker:
I do understand that actively listening is a two way process. I wish that people who give presentations are more cognizant of what they are like when they are speaking though. It shouldn’t just fall on the listener to listen, but also on the speaker to be engaging, upbeat and dynamic. Studies always show that on average, listening to a 10 minute oral-speaker, listeners retain about 50% of the information given. 48 hours later, that drops down to about 25% of what the speaker said. To me, those speakers that are the most engaging, most entertaining, most dynamic are the ones that truly stick out in my mind and cause e to retain more of the information.
I know that I have a hard time listening, especially to large chunks of information, so I know that I definitely need to focus more on really tuning out all the distractions to effectively, actively and completely listen when someone is speaking but it is also my sincerest hope that people work harder to be more engaged and dynamic speakers.
“We are human beings and this is part of our human nature. We do not learn the importance of anything until it is snatched from our hands." - Malala Yousafzai
This is Malala. She is currently 22 years old, but this video was filmed when she was 16.
On October 9, 2012 Malala was 15 years old. Malala was sitting on a bus and shot in the face by Taliban forces in the Swat region of Pakistan. The Taliban shot Malala because Malala believed in the importance of education for women. Because Malala spoke up, the Taliban marked her for death.
In 2013 she co-authored a book entitled, I am Malala and in 2014 Malala became the youngest person to ever receive the Nobel Peace Prize for her efforts in advocating for education for women. Despite all odds and overcoming such trials and tribulations, this young woman still maintains a truly positive and refreshing attitude.
"If you hit a Talib with your shoe, then there would be no difference between you and the Talib. You must not treat others with cruelty. You must fight others, but through peace, dialogue and education." - Malala Yousafzai
While speaking to the United Nations, Malala said, "The terrorists thought they would change my aims and stop my ambitions, but nothing changed in my life except this: weakness, fear and hopelessness died. Strength, power and courage was born ... I am not against anyone, neither am I here to speak in terms of personal revenge against the Taliban or any other terrorist group. I'm here to speak up for the right of education for every child. I want education for the sons and daughters of the Taliban and all terrorists and extremists."
After all of this, Malala has continued her advocacy and activism and in 2018 wrote a new book, We are Displaced: True Stories of Refugee Lives. In this book, Malala talks about refugees and says, "What tends to get lost in the current refugee crisis is the humanity behind the statistics..." and "people become refugees when they have no other option. This is never your first choice." With everything that has gone on over the past 4 years in the fight for refugees and refugee rights, it is important to always remember the humanity behind the politics.
Malala has created a fund, the Malala Fund, that fights to educate women and children all across the world, to make sure that education is a top priority in stoping violence and terrorism for future generations.
“The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story...The consequence of a single story is this, it robs people of dignity. It makes our recognition of our equal humanity difficult. It emphasizes how we are different instead of how we are similar." – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
The single story exists everywhere. Everyone stereotypes but the problem exists when people use those stereotypes to judge or classify a person, culture, society, etc. Why do you think people stereotype and what do you think are the dangers with stereotypes? Could stereotyping ever be for a positive reason or have a positive outcome?
I think people stereotype for several reasons: FEAR, LAZINESS, UNEDUCATED, OR DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER.
Oftentimes, people develop those stereotypes based upon family values and beliefs. It only makes sense right, that as children we spend a good majority of time with our parents and develop a similar viewpoint or value system that they have. So if a family has an issue with a certain trait, value or culture, they generate a viewpoint of people who express that characteristic, culture, etc. As we continue to cognitively develop, we add to our values and beliefs based upon the things that we learn from our friends, peers, the news media and society.
What is important is that people need to challenge their beliefs to ensure that they are not forming a single story. College is one of the great times when people can challenge these beliefs. As they come to college, students begin to test their values (values that they have developed and their parents have fostered for 18 years). It is here where college students can interact with different cultures, different viewpoints, different ideas. After mixing their values with this new information, hopefully what emerges is a new or revised viewpoint. College allows for that cognitive dissonance.
But what happens if someone does not go to college or someone does not have that chance to experience that dissonance on a belief? How do we effectively interact with them to help promote dissonance? I believe that representation is extremely important. I believe that being able to show people that difference is not bad and that just because someone is different does not make them a bad person or an inferior member of society.
We, as humans, are Cognitive masters in that our brains our wired to think and think and think. So because we think a lot, we like to compartmentalize things or categorize things because it makes learning and recalling information easier. The problem with this is that once we categorize or stereotype we very often forget to go back and make sure that our categories live up to their stereotype. It is important that we are constantly analyzing and reevaluating our thoughts, impressions and stereotypes to make sure that we haven't created a single story.
What are you doing to avoid creating a single story?
When looking at the entire expanse of a lifetime, sometimes it seems like you have so much time to do the things that you really want to do and enough time to get things done the way you want them done. But when you include all of the other things that you HAVE to do in life (eating, grooming, going to work, traveling, etc) how much time do you really have to make the most of your life?
I thought that this video was very interesting and I think that it really puts some things into perspective. How do you spend your free time and ultimately what would you rather be doing? I guess we all tend to think that sometimes “Life is too short,” but I think that this video really shows how short life really is. I am a visual learner and for me, this video resonates with me. It really puts things into perspective. When you think about all the time we spend worrying, complaining, fighting with others, focusing on the small and menial aspects of life we forget about the larger, more important events in our lives.
If at the end of the day we only have about 1/10th of our lives that are set up for those moments for laughing, swimming, making art, going on hikes, text messaging, reading, checking Facebook, learning the guitar, etc it truly does put life into perspective. For me it shows that 1) Everyone needs to cherish their youth, 2) You really need to choose a job you love (especially if you are going to be spending more time at work then focusing on free time), 3) If our free time really does only consist of 2,740 days, then YOU NEED TO REALLY MAKE THE MOST OF IT!!! Carpe Diem.
On Average, you will:
Live: 28,835 days
Threshold of Adulthood: 5,470 days
Sleep: 8,477 days
Eat, Drink and Preparing Food: 1,635 days
Work: 3,202 days
Commute/Travel in our Daily Lives: 1,099 days
Watch Television: 2,676 days
Household Activities (Chores, taking care of pets, shopping): 1,576 days
Care for the need or wellbeing of others (friends and family): 564 days
Grooming/Bathroom activities: 671 days
Community Activities (religious activities, charity, taking classes, civi duties, meetings, etc): 720 days
Free time: 2,740 days….
Today is the first day of a new year. I have already used up 13,140 days and only have about 15,695 days left. So I am making a resolution to start focusing more on life, on those moments that make life truly worth living. You could literally spend your entire life planning, dreaming and thinking about what you want for your life instead of enacting it. So I am going to work more intentionally this year to start completing the legacy that I want to leave behind.
So my question to all of you, What do you do in your free time? I know for me, I don’t need to be doing anything too lavish or eloquent. I think spending time with family and friends is extremely important so to me that is what I want to do with my free time…spending it with the people that make me feel unique and loved. How did this video make you feel?